How To Make A Marriage Last 

The Official Long-Timers’
Top Ten Tips for Marriage Longevity

1. Begin your union with God’s blessing:  A marriage is a living entity and subject to all of the temptations of the world. Asking for God’s support early in the life of the marriage helps to maintain respect for the union and supernatural assistance along the way.
2. Selfless love: The marriage that lasts is the one that is firmly planted in unconditional love, mutual respect, and a sincere belief in the other person. Inherent in this mindset is a willing heart – a willingness to do whatever is takes. Sometimes this means temporarily setting aside your own goals so that the other person can move forward. Ultimately, both can accomplish all that they hope for - all dreams can be realized - eventually. Knowing this, brings patience.
3. Trust: The heart must know that it can safely trust in the other. Secret hopes, dreams, and confidences must be protected. By never violating this trust, your spouse will have no need to seek support elsewhere. In our tell-all society, the standard is to seek the comments and advice of the multitudes. But an intimate relationship blessed by God requires safety, a safety that only comes through private and confidential trust.
4. Commitment: Divorce is not an option. No matter what the world says, a marriage established in God is able – with His help – to be saved. Knowing that whatever comes, you are both invested for the long haul, eliminates temptations and the need to seek alternatives. It is a committed mindset requiring steadfast resolve.
5. Prayer: A marriage is like a child, in need of protection, nurturing, and support. It requires prayer and divine counsel. Through prayer, understanding and insight are born.
6. Courtesy: A marriage maintains strength and mutual appreciation through daily deposits of courtesy. Much like depositing money in a saving account expecting it to bear interest over time, invested kindness has its rewards, too. A lasting marriage requires a consistent and sincere expression of kindness, generosity, and appreciation. Courtesy, politeness, graciousness, “please, thank you, etc.” go a long way in maintaining mutual love.
7. Affection: Through closeness, chemicals are released in the brain that encourage bonding. In fact, these are the same chemicals that are produced in the bonding process between a mother and her child.
8. Keep your expectations realistic: Your spouse will never be able to meet all of your needs. Only God can do that. So when your spouse falls short of your expectations, remember that he or she is made of clay, just like you. Forgiveness and mercy are basic foundations upon which a marriage thrives.
9. Change is inevitable: People change. That is a truth of life. One person moves ahead in a career, the other grows in knowledge of a specific skill, one changes priorities as maturity evolves, the other launches out to accomplish a dream. Through it all, when the best interest of the spouse is a priority, the marriage grows, too.
10. A sense of humor: Nothing can dispel a glitch in a relationship better than a sense of humor. Repair misunderstandings quickly. And never, but never go to bed angry.

No matter how long a person lives, at the end, the realization that life is fleeting always takes center stage. So spend your energies on someone with whom you can share your life. The diversions that compete for your time are of little consequence when the final tally is complete. Give your heart totally to one person and, hand-in-hand, walk wholly under the blessings of a loving God.

The Holy Bible, The Old Testament

Proverbs, Chapter 31: Verses 10-31